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Snow Moon Rituals Feb 05, 2023: replenish your energy

This Sunday, we will experience the second full moon of the year. It is called the Snow Moon and holds spiritual significance for those who practice Moonology.

Snow Moon origins

The name Snow Moon dates back to the mid-1700s when Captain Jonathan Carver visited Naudowessie and chose the name because of the amount of snow that would fall in the area during that month.

Names for moon phases typically had connections to animals, which makes the Snow Moon more unique. Other names used for this moon include Hungry Moon and Bony Moon – giving a nod to lack of natural food sources available due to harsh winter climates.

The name Snow Moon also comes from Native Americans, Celtic and Nordic Paganism, and Colonial America.


Spiritual significance

The Snow Moon for February 05, 2023, falls in the sign of Leo which can aid in manifesting positivity and good energy. If you’ve been experiencing mental health issues like depression or anxiety, now is the time to focus on meditation, relaxation and practice the art of selfcare.

February 01-02 marked the sixth week of winter which means the days are a little longer and the moon rises a little later in the day. The weather is still bitterly cold in some areas and many people choose to travel to escape to warmer climates. Many people experience spring fever – I know I am. I’m so ready for winter to be over.


Spiritual focus

This time of year reminds us that if there is one constant thing in life, it is change. The weather changes so often in the northern hemisphere that it can seem like we experience seemingly all season on some days.

Imbolc, renewal and reusable energy

Imbolc is practiced from February 01 to February 07 in some cultures, and this is a good time to be mindful of what you use in your daily life and how much you waste. If you’re an environmentally friendly person, you may want to consider adopting practices such as recycling, renewing products or donating those items that may be collecting space in your home. The same goes for energy – both in our homes and our bodies.

This time of year, I often get into batch cooking and store food for the upcoming months. I will make things like soups, stews and chilis and freeze the leftovers. I use glass jars and food containers in an effort to waste less food which is a challenge as a single person. Being mindful of food waste is an important practice and gives nods to our ancestors who had to scavenge and hunt for food during long winter months where resources were barren.


In summary

if you want to work with the full moon energy this month, now is the perfect time to work on boosting up your own energy. Be creative. Practice selfcare. Do things that bring you comfort and joy – even if for 10 or 15 minutes each day. Meditate. Practice gratitude.

You will see positive changes if you incorporate these things into your daily life. I say this as someone coming out of a dark depressive episode who is finally feeling more like myself.

Work with what you have. You don’t need to go out and spend money on items. These are just suggestions to help you learn more about Moonology and spiritual practices. Find what works for you!


Ritual suggestions for boosting positivity

  • Brew herbal tea or calming tea before bed, light a candle while you drink it and listen to uplifting music
  • Meditate and focus on your intentions for the month
  • Practice gratitude and make a list of things you are grateful for
  • Charge your crystals and altar items by the light of the full moon if safe to do so.
  • Get creative – make something by hand, write poetry, paint a picture or build something new
  • Have a healing bath — see recipe below!

Correspondences and items you may use

  • Colors or candles: yellow, gold or orange
  • Crystals for positivity: tiger eye, aventurine, amethyst, rose quartz, malachite, clear quartz, blue lace agate
  • Planet association: the sun
  • Incense: patchouli, lemongrass or rosemary/rose, or sage for protection
  • Oils: lemongrass, orange or sage
  • Herbs or flowers for positivity and energy: rosemary, calendula, basil, spearmint, dandelion, honeysuckle, nettle, patchouli, lemongrass
  • Herbal teas: peppermint, chamomile, calming tea, green tea, lemon balm


Next month: March 07 – Snow Moon

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Sleep paralysis and shadow people

Sleep paralysis, simply described, is when messages sent from the brain as you wake up from sleep, get “stuck” somewhere down your neuro path. It is thought that it’s a temporary disconnection from the brain and spinal cord. The key word, being temporary. It usually only lasts seconds or moments when it happens but can feel like hours. Time is greatly distorted during episodes.

Symptoms include hallucinations, body jerks (hypnojerks), being frozen in fear, weird smells and strong auditory hallucinations, and even if that wasn’t terrifying enough… continue reading for what it was really like for me.

Commonly associated with sleep disorders like insomnia, sleep paralysis is quite has been reported around the globe. Other related conditions include: migraines, seizures, Parkinsons Disease, and dementia.


Beliefs around the globe

Many people around the globe who live with chronic sleep paralysis report seeing shadow people either in their bed or in the room with them. Yep. You read that correctly. Most commonly, people see the Hat Man.

There have been different types of sleep paralysis reported and connected to spiritual beliefs. These include intruder hallucinations, incubus hallucinations, vestibular and motor hallucinations.

I have now experienced all three of these sleep paralysis types and each one was truly horrific in its own way.

Some cultures believe that sleep paralysis is a spiritual experience and caused by visitations from shadow beings or demons.

The Old Hag being one of the more famous of the sleep demons as depicted in the image below (credit Google search). Other names for these creatures are Jinn (Demons), Pisadeira (Brazil), Night-mare (Europe) and Lilitu (Mesopotamia).

One of the early depictions of sleep paralysis was found from 1684 in the Incubus or the Night-mare written by a Dutch physician. Though there are cases that have been documented for centuries around the globe including South East Asian communities.

Most notably, there was a documented case in the Philippines, in a village called (that I cannot find for the life of me) – where many villagers died from what was believed to be sleep paralysis.

Science would explain the death of these healthy people to be sudden arrhythmic death syndrome.

But when it happens to an entire village, it makes you stop and ponder. IS there really something to this, that science cannot explain?


The Hooded Figure / Hat Man

For me, my first time, I saw a hooded figure hover over my bed that had no face. And I was wide awake when it happened. I just couldn’t move.

First time it happened, it was over as quickly as it began. I was going through a bad period in life and had been sick for a long time. Doctors couldn’t figure out what was wrong. Everyone knows by now here I suffer from really bad insomnia. This past summer was up to 200 hours. That fall, I was around the 100 mark of no sleep. Grabbing only quick power naps during the day. It got so bad, that I wanted to die. Until after my sleep paralysis experience, I had five weeks of iron infusions that turned things around.

In that first episode, I fell asleep with the light on for only moments on my back. The smell of something burning jolted me awake. Then I heard all the bones and joints in my body BREAK. And it felt like it too. Like I sunk back into the bed from the air. Everything hurt. I flew out of bed not understanding what had just happened.

The next time it happened was a couple of nights later. This was almost 10 years ago in the fall of 2013. Weird.

I was in a lot of pain, and had just about given up. It felt like something was in the room with me all night. I’m sensitive in that sense too to strange energies. It felt like something was lurking. And later that night, around 2 in the morning, I finally passed out. And woke up suddenly. Frozen in bed. Unable to move. Unable to scream. Unable to do anything.

But I was WIDE awake and coherent and knew what was happening around me. It was the single most horrifying experience of my adult life. And I’ve had weird experiences over the years.

The hooded figure came out of the corner of the room near my bed. It moved with grace and stood over me. Reached out its hand, and then that’s when the episode broke. I flew out of bed, landing on the floor, tripping over the comforter. Ran over to the light switch and turned it on.

Sure enough, I was on my own.

That’s the night I learned about sleep paralysis and it would be a subject I would become obsessed with. Then it didn’t happen again for years until last night. My insomnia is back and sleep is shit.

The fear I felt in that moment when I woke up from a dead of sleep. It was the sound of knocking in the walls that did it. The heater has been going crazy. I know it’s the heater and not a demon in the walls at least. But still. I woke up. Couldn’t move.

I can’t begin to describe the amount of fear that took over my body in that moment. I had no idea what day it was. What time it was. Where I was.

I’m writing to this to hear other people’s experiences with sleep paralysis. What was your worst experience like? How often do you get it? And what do you do to make it go away?

Want to learn more about sleep paralysis? Here are some noteworthy documentaries. Also, if you’re looking for some spooky movies that cover the topic – Doctor Sleep and Shadow People are entertaining.


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So, I might be neurodivergent?

I’ve been wondering this for a while now. My struggles with attending community events or even being in public in general. Never used to be this way. In my 20’s, I was a fairly social creature. I went to all the events I could afford or travel to. Now, I maybe go to five a year.

A conversation this morning online has me questioning it yet again. I also completed the Myers-Brigg personality test and scored the rarest score – INFP – highly introverted and intuitive. The discussion connected INFP types to neurodivergents and well, it got me thinking.

My therapist diagnosed me with generalized anxiety disorder last year at a DSM level 5. Symptoms were exasperated by my employer. One of the catalysts that sent me into disability life. One of many reasons. I’m getting used to it.

I’m a gen X’er. Which means, we didn’t talk about mental health issues when we were kids. My mother repeatedly threatened to send me to therapy because I spent so much time alone as a kid in my room reading. I couldn’t read enough. I’ve always been a recluse, a hermit and loner. Friendships are hard for me at times. The other excuse was that my siblings were buttheads and there was a lot of bullying in the household.

They still kind of are at times. I only engage with them about issues with my dad, or my brand new baby niece who I am in love with.

But the bullying was traumatizing both physical and emotional. Emotional damage for years that would even induce nightmares about haunted dolls, and clowns.

Anyway…shudder. I don’t need those dreams.

We didn’t talk about mental health issues. I’m only now just connecting the dots through shadow work and her detailed journals, that my mother struggled with high functioning anxiety and depression too. There was a lot of stress in the house. And I would grow up to later have cortisol issues which causes fight or flight mode. On a loop. It’s exhausting.

So, why do I think I might be neurodivergent?

Well, we didn’t have terms like this when I was involved in the scene many years ago. I’m learning new terms all the time. And more neuro type folks that I met and befriended, the more I went… Huh.

And then I had a lightbulb moment.

Am I neurodivergent?

Let’s see how many behaviors apply to me. My therapist would cringe at this. She hates when people self-diagnose themselves.

Struggling to read and write – no. But holding a pen or pencil is painful for me. Most written communication is on the computer for that reason.

Clumsiness? Shit yeah, you should see the bruises on my legs.

Hard to cope with crowds, bright lights, noise, physical sensations? Yes! Even the sound of crunching snow under my feet drives me crazy.

Difficulties focusing? Can’t sit still? I mean, there’s a reason I’m on fetlife a lot these days. Distraction.

No smiling? Or social responsiveness? To a point. I do better 1 to 1 or in really small group settings where I know the people well. I attended a group event this fall and sat there literally chewing my fingernails. The anxiety about saying the wrong thing was surreal. And it was a small and intimate group.

Personality traits: I am sometimes blunt but don’t meant to be rude or hurtful. People don’t like that much. I mask when needed but I hate doing it. I’ve always kind of done my own thing and often don’t fit into communities.

When it came to school, I was never a good student. Classes bored me. I learned way too late in life that I learned better by actually DOING things. Math and science – my brain couldn’t compute. But language, music, arts, crafts, were my jam. Areas where I could express myself freely.

ADHD is also linked to hypermobility which is the main cause behind my chronic pain and injuries. Same with anxiety. Constant fight or flight mode. Throw in insomnia and other issues too. Sometimes I’m not fun to be around.

So, am I neurodivergent or is it something else? I don’t know. But the more people I interact with who are – it seems, the better we tend to get along and make friends fast with. I guess time will only tell.

What’s your neurodivergent story? How did you get diagnosed?


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A day in the life of chronic pain

It’s Wednesday today and I thought I would take a break from articles and share some personal tidbits about my daily life. What it’s like being on disability and how I cope with having too much time and not enough to fill in the hours.

My mornings start by waking up anywhere between 7:30 am and 9:00 am. Sometimes I linger in bed and read or watch Tik-Tok. It depends on how bad the pain is in my knees, or how much sleep I got the night before.

Next, I make my coffee and breakfast. Lately, breakfast consists of two pieces of toast, some jam, and a piece of fruit. Sometimes I’ll make eggs for added protein.

While sipping coffee, I hop onto youtube and catch up on my subscribed videos. Today, I’m watching my favorite witchy channels about celebrating Imbolc. I’m currently watching The Cottage Fairy who also suffers from anxiety and is an introvert. These are the people that I’m drawn to. Her videos are calming and soup for the soul.

Then I spent some time responding to emails, and catch up with friends on social media sites. Sometimes this goes on for too long and before I know it – it’s almost noon.

Today, I’m getting lost in the YouTube algorithm of Fairytale cottages and dream homes. What I wouldn’t give to live in a rural place like this.

I’ll take a break, exercise, do my stretches, maybe sit outside if it’s a nice warm day. It’s been too cold and windy for this lately. Or I’ll do some tidying up in the kitchen. Today, I need to take out the garbage. Later, I’ll see my dad.

Every couple of weeks, I order in groceries and will spend an afternoon in the kitchen doing food prep and plan meals for the week. I’m trying to get better at using up all the food in my fridge before shopping again. I’m also trying to grow some of my own herbs. Because every penny counts.

Afternoons vary. Sometimes I’ll have a nap if I was up all night due to insomnia. Sometimes I’ll write or work on blog posts. Sometimes I’ll stream music and work on art. It really just depends on how I’m feeling.

My hands have lost dexterity, so I don’t work on crafts nearly as much as I’d like. Arthritis is often a crippling disease.

Evenings are sometimes the worst when you live alone. I used to entertain weekly or sometimes twice a week. It gave me motivation to keep my condo clean. It gave me something to look forward to. I’ll get to that again in the spring once I’m social again. For now, the isolation is needed.

I’ll do more reading in bed, or stream my favorite shows. Or watch movies. Or hop onto Discord and chat with new friends. Or twitter to chat with local friends. Sometimes I’ll order in dinner. Sometimes I’ll get the fireplace going.

Other times I have a very long bath which helps with the chronic pain and sore muscles. And every night, I try and get into my office and do a Tarot reading. Sometimes I’ll work on meditation and intentions. Sometimes I’ll write in my journal.

I’m looking forward to longer days. Where I can sit outside and read again. Or have a nap on the sofa. Or entertain friends for drinks. Or just go for walks again without worrying about ice.

I do what I can as pain allows for it. Pain rules my life but it doesn’t define my life. I do the best I can.

This blog — has kept me going through dark times. And now, I love the direction it’s heading in and the content I’m working on. I’m excited to share this new chapter of my life with you.

Thank you for being here with me.


If you’re on disability or medical retirement – what do you do to pass the time?

Spring decor for welcoming positive energy into your home and banishing the negative

Something I’d like to work on this year as it comes up to the third year of living in this condo – my how time flies – is to brighten things up in my living room and bedroom and make it more “homey”.

In addition to that, I want to make my home welcoming to guests, and ward off negative energy that might be attached to visitors, or might come in unexpectedly through spiritual practices.

Because I’m medically retired and am home most of the time, it’s important that my condo feels cozy. Especially on those days I might need more of an energy lifter.


Energy and the home

My beliefs about spirits and energy are open ended. Meaning, I have had experiences I cannot explain. Mostly based on feelings and getting the sense that I am not alone. Dream experiences that come true later on. And visitations from deceased relatives.

Some of the energy that comes around is warm, comforting and familiar. Sometimes I think that might be a spirit guide or relative coming to say hello. Other times, the energy is heavy and unwanted. I don’t get scared very often, but sometimes residual energy can be really heavy and impact your overall mood and well being.

So, something I’m looking to do is just brightening up my living space. I’m hoping to hit garage sales this spring and might be time to hit the thrift stores too.

I thought I would share some ideas with you and items that I really would like to pick up – when finances allow for it. I’d also like to try and craft things like a lunar wreath.

Budget friendly ideas are welcome and appreciated.


Door and window charms

Some witches or wiccans like to hang bells and charms on their doors. I read once that welcome mats are a bad idea as they can welcome something into your home that you don’t want to invite in. Same with if you hear knocking at your door – but there’s no one there. Don’t open it please!

https://www.etsy.com/ca/shop/EcosidesStore?ref=simple-shop-header-name&listing_id=1276686630

The Green Witch is one of my go-to resources now for new ideas and inspiration. Here is one of her videos on making your own door charm. You can learn more about color and flower correspondences to use for protection.


Decorative wall art and objects

I love this lunar wreath and have it saved to my favorites. I’m searching for similar items to hand in my bedroom. Mostly because it’s a gorgeous piece of art. The moon has always been a fascination and I’d love to bring in pieces that represent the magic and beauty of the moon.

https://www.etsy.com/ca/shop/PeacefullMoon?ref=simple-shop-header-name&listing_id=1314331631

Dried flower or herbal wreath

I’ve been searching high and low for wreaths for my living room. Non-Christmas wreaths are quite expensive and I’m very specific in what I’m looking for. I love chamomile, rose and lavender. But there are other wreaths you can hang for protection in your home too. You can buy them from any crafting store, or you can learn to make them yourself.

Some flowers that are good for protection include yarrow, witch hazel, St. John’s wort, wildflower, malva, verbascum and baptisia. Some of these are very hard to find depending on where you are in the world.


Printable Artwork

I’m getting back into making printable artwork and will be selling the prints on Etsy as time allows for it. You can easily make your own prints using programs like Canva which has a free (but limited) plan.

I’m starting to collect poems, chants or spells that I really like and am putting them onto decorative backgrounds. If you have a good printer, you can print from home – or send to a company like VistaPrint or London Drugs if you’re in Canada.

This design is something I created using Canva. I also am an artist who uses Corel Painter and have created many pieces that I’d love to see printed up on canvas and hang on my walls. Something I really need to get done soon!


Diffuser oils, incense and candles

If you rent your home, you may want to check with your management company or landlord before burning incense or using oils. Some people do have allergies to scented oils so keep that inmind.

I absolutely love candles and this is part of the Danish lifestyle “Get Hygge with it” in making your home cozy. I always keep a candle lit when working with Tarot, casting spells, or even having a bath.

Candles create an ambiance and just help with overall protection and relaxation. It’s great for anxiety and just so pretty!!

You can buy scented candles or regular candles it’s up to you. I know LED candles are a thing – but I do prefer using real candles.


Spring is coming!

Are you excited for spring like I am? Only six more weeks left of winter and I am counting the days. Looking for ideas and inspiration to brighten up my home.

I have a mini indoor garden that I am slowly working on. I have spring onions and celery growing in my window. I’ll plant them soon and share the results. It’s too early to plant outdoors – usually can’t do that until end of April. So, hoping to plant more herbs and buy flowers soon!

What ideas did you love in this post? Let me know in the comments!


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Pagan Celebrations: February 01-02: Imbolc (Candlemas)

On February 01 to sundown on February 02, Pagans celebrate what is known as Imbolc or Candlemas. Imbolc, which is based on Celtic traditions, was used as a marker of the halfway point between Winter Solstice and Spring Equinox.

This holiday isn’t just limited to Pagans, it is also widely appreciated by Wiccans, Witches and other spiritual folk around the world. More commonly so in European countries.

For many, they honor the longer days. Gone are the short days of winter. The sun arrives a little earlier in the morning and tends to last a little longer too. Here in Alberta, it’s no longer dark at 5 pm which is a nice change.


Imbolc Origins

There are many legends of what are thought to be the origins of Imbolc. The Celts of Britain and Ireland honor Pagan Goddess Brigid, who was one of the most powerful of Gods. She had two sisters of the same name, though some speculate that the three sisters symbolize different aspects of Brigid.

There are myths about Brigid as well. Some say that she was born with a flame in hand and drank the milk of a mystical cow from the astral world.

Keening is associated with Brigid which is traditional wailing that is practiced at Irish and Scottish funerals.


Imbolc Traditions

Imbolc begins on Feb 01 and ends at sundown on Feb 02. People worshipped and showed devotion to Brigid by decorating their homes with a hand crafted effigy using oats and rushes which was then placed in a dress and basket overnight. Burning lamps, candles and/or bonfires were also used for tributes to Brigid.

In modern times, Imbolc is pretty low key. I know in the Lutheran Churches, they celebrate what is known as Candlemas. Some Wiccans opt to celebrate at a later date when weather is more appropriate.

Modern day rituals might include a bonfire to celebrate Brigid, or fire rituals. If you don’t have access to a bonfire, you may wish to light candles instead.

February 02 is also known as Groundhog Day which if you’ve seen the movie with Bill Murray, you know what it means.


Imbolc Intentions

The word Imbolc is defined as a new stirring of life or as I say often, a new beginning. Goddess Brigid is known for fertility, guardian of home and hearth, and fire.

Since Imbolc marks the halfway point between Winter and Spring, this may be a good time to work an indoor garden or plant herbs. Some herbs that grow well indoors include sage, mint, chives, and my favorite, spring onions.

If you are trying to become pregnant, Goddess Brigid is associated with fertility and Imbolc would be the perfect time to be intimate with your partner.

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Other ideas for Imbolc

  • Spring cleaning, decluttering, reorganizing home
  • Do a Tarot or Rune reading, or have someone do one for you
  • Get crafty and work with organic items like wheat, or wood, parchment paper, wool or anything you can get your hands on.
  • Start a new project or revisit something you’ve been working on
  • Cook a light dinner that involves breads, cheese, fruit and vegetables
  • Plan some intimacy with your partner – Frigid can bring fertility if you’re trying to have a baby.

Candles, herbs and other tools

  • Flowers or herbs: Chamomile, Lavender, Snowdrop, Iris, Heather
  • Herbs: Bay, Angelica, Vanilla, Basil, Rosemary
  • Herbal tea: Chamomile, Rosemary, Lavender
  • Essential oils: Lavender, Rose
  • Incense: Lavender, Rose, Vanilla
  • Crystals: Amethyst, Onyx, Turquoise
  • Foods: Bread, Cake, White Meats (chicken ,pork), Seeds
  • Candles: green, pink or yellow and rub with oil

Prayer for Imbolc

I wrote this on a whim today after watching another witch on YouTube. I love this idea and I think I will do this for every Sabbat that comes up.

Blessed be!

Thank you for reading. What are your plans for Imbolc? Make sure to check my “Spiritual” page for more Sabbat ideas & rituals.


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Correction: Imbolc is on Wednesday. This post was scheduled, and listed a day early.

I did not expect to cry over this video message

Jonna Jinton is an artist and content creator from northern Sweden. I first discovered her when searching for videos about my “home country” – Denmark. The beauty in her videos is what turned me into a fan. She’s also a musician and a bit of a humanitarian and has won awards.

I did NOT expect to cry over this video message. If you have an hour and need some uplifting messages today…. watch this please. She collected videos from people around the globe and just wow. She received thousands of videos from her fans which now reach over 4 million.

“You have a reason to be here”

“The true religion is kindness. Let’s just be kind to each other.”

Trust me. It’s worth a watch.

And trust me – you will need tissues. I am bawling over this.


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Spring(ish) cleaning

The worst part of depression episodes and what I’ve learned from living with depression — it’s usually worse in winter months.

It isn’t that you want to sleep all the time which you do. Sometimes from 8 hours, to 12 hours, to 36 hours and you’re still tired.

It isn’t that you isolate yourself and sabotage relationships, though that can happen. The thought of talking to another human being takes a lot of effort some days.

It isn’t like there’s a button you can turn it on and off at will. Depression comes and goes when it wants to. Some have it easier than others. For others, there’s no turning it off. Ever.

It isn’t the fact that even though you know you need a shower, just mustering up the energy to have one can take up ALL the energy you have for that day.

It isn’t the fact that even eating or sitting outside can make you feel better, but it feels like a chore. Eventually you lose your appetite too.

It isn’t the fact that you do lose friends over it – and it happens again and again. But new ones will come along. They always do.

It’s the fact that you can’t clean and let basic day to day tasks slide. My place has been such a disaster. Having regular company kept me motivated to clean. Now…I’m finally doing a massive clean up for the first time since before Christmas. Because I finally have the energy to do so.

It’s all energy. Either you have it. Or you don’t. And when you don’t have it, the simplest of tasks can’t be done.

I call it post-depressive episode cleaning. And today, it feels good.

Decluttering the home. And the mind too.

There is a light at the end of what seemed like a long and dark tunnel. Today was a good day. I hope this energy lasts. The longer days are helping and they’ll get longer and longer too.

Make the most of those good days. You just gotta take it day by day.

What is Shadow Work and why is it necessary for trauma?

Shadow work is working with your unconscious mind to uncover parts of yourself that you may have repressed or hide from yourself. This could include past traumas, hurts, or negative aspects of the shadow self, that we all possess.


What is our shadow self?

Our shadow self is thought to be the parts of ourselves that make us undesirable to others. Or parts of ourselves that hold us back from success or happiness. Our shadows can represent things like anger, sadness or depression, anxiety, self-doubt or self-loathing. It can have an impact on your overall well-being and cause blockages with your spiritual beliefs and practices.

Giving in for far too long to our shadow self, can result in struggling in relationships or connections in general. When you suffer from chronic anxiety and depression, it can really make it hard to sustain relationships with others who seem more positive or can shrug off challenges more easily. I am not one of those people.

This was the first time I really dived into shadow work, and it was a draining and exhausting process. It was also lonely as hell. But it’s something I will work continue to work on to help heal.


How to recognize your shadow self

A good way to test yourself, is to gauge how you interact and react towards others. How do you respond when people become aggressive towards you? What about those who do not respect your boundaries?

Are you firm in telling them to stop? Are you firm in sticking to your core values and principles? Or are you the type of person who avoids conflict or difficult situations and tend to ignore your selfcare because you are a people pleaser?

There’s nothing wrong with being a people pleaser, as long as you don’t dismiss your own values in the process.


Consequences of shadow work

When you do shadow work, you get a better sense of what those core values in relationships might look like for you. This can change your entire outlook on current connections in your life. You might lose friends or even your primary relationships.

People who aren’t ready to face their trauma or do shadow work themselves, will often revolt or shy away from those that do.

Shadow work can also reveal trauma you may have suppressed for years and this can open a flood gate of feelings you aren’t prepared for. I do suggest working with trained professionals in counseling or therapy. Or find a support group that you can trust.

You may find yourself becoming emotional for no reason even on those good days. Crying is a big part of it. You may also find you want to sleep more. Pain might surface. Same with tension headaches. If you struggle with any of these new symptoms, please check in with your primary care provider.

Your intuition will peak during this process. You will notice toxic behaviors more and people that you considered to be close friends, will not look the same.

You will go through it. The stages of grief are real. I’m kind of in between I’m ready to let it all go, I’m mad at the world, and I just want to have fun again.

Thankfully, the crying myself to sleep daily has stopped.


Setting intentions with shadow work

One of your intentions with shadow work might be to help heal from trauma or hurt that triggered something from the past. For me, it was an abrupt ending to a relationship. Being made to feel like I was a terrible person when in reality, I wasn’t. Unresolved conflict led me to an anxiety spiral and a serious depressive episode. This led to being ghosted.

This experience brought out a lot of insecurities and resentment from past partners. It also triggered my abandonment anxiety and I went into a bad spiral.

Intentions can be anything you want to work on. I find bullet journaling, writing here in this block and working with Tarot cards really helps to pick things I should focus on. Ideas will often come to me while meditating or working on crafts as well.

You can read more about intention setting here.


Lessons learned during my shadow work

  • Make sure you have clear intentions and an outcome for your work.
  • You will need breaks in between to remember the good things in life.
  • Give yourself a deadline for the hardest parts.
  • Surround yourself with people who are on similar paths that you can learn from. Be wary of those who are “leaders” and stick to ones you get good vibes from. Trust your intuition.
  • Your intuition will peak during this process.
  • You will feel things you’ve never felt before and these can manifest into physical symptoms.
  • You will want to isolate yourself. That’s fine. But don’t isolate too long. You will need friends to help you.

Most importantly: you will lose people. Those who are false friends will reveal their masks once you start taking care of you. It will hurt you more. But you are better off without these people. This will open new doors for new people to come in.

You will discover who your real friends are. The ones who are happy with you as you are and accept you fully despite your faults.


It’s a lifelong healing process

Shadow work can be rewarding and can speed up your healing process from recent hurts. That said, the more trauma you unpack, the more you connect it to your early memories. This can be a lifelong process and you may have to relearn coping mechanism along the way.

The point of shadow work isn’t to stay in the darkness forever. The point of it is to learn to let go of that darkness that hides your shine. You WILL find your inner light again. You will get your spark back.

You just have to keep working at it.


Also, this song came on while I was writing this and I thought I’d share the video. It’s fitting.

Discussion Prompt

Have you ever done shadow work? If so, what were your biggest lessons? What methods worked for you? Did you have a support group? Let me know in the comments.


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A brief glimpse into my spiritual practices (part 1)

I don’t know if I’ve covered this yet in this blog as a post, but I thought I would share some information about my current spiritual path and why I practice the way I do.

Over the years as I became obsessed with shows like Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Charmed and then Supernatural – Witchcraft and Wicca seemed to call out to me. I studied both practices and also worked with Animism (Shamanism) and attended local drumming circles.

I went through a sort of spiritual awakening in the past two months and I’ve never felt more “alive” in the spiritual sense. I feel at peace and learning more and more every day.

The Karmic Law

My main belief being: karma will find its way back to you. What you send out to the universe, will come back to you. And so, I try and live a good life. But I often attract people that will test this faith.

It’s similar to the whole “do unto others” that you see in Christianity. There is some truth to it, at least that I’ve experienced personally. Some people are meant to teach you karmic lessons. While others will help you grow.


Shamanism and Animism

There’s a lot of controversary in some circles about sticking to your own heritage instead of adopting Indigenous beliefs. But I digress. Shamanism is one of the oldest forms of religions and is practiced worldwide. No one owns it. So, if you want to practice Shamanism, go for it. I’m a firm believer in individualism and you are free to do what feels right for you.

The main principle of Shamanism is that there is one Creator – one source for the divine. Mother Earth. It is working with natural elements, the moon and the sun. It’s about using natural healing methods. And dream work or astral travel. Something I’ve done a lot of. Animals are a big part of Shamanism and I’ll touch on that in a later post.

Animism refers to the attribution of a soul to living things and inanimate objects. Or the belief in supernatural power that animates the material universe. It is believed that objects can posses souls.

An example of this is in Thailand where they believe that dolls can inherit a soul and become real. Animals are also considered spiritual beings and can act as spirit guides or harbingers of news or communication.


Green Witchery

This is a new term for me and it’s something I can strongly identify with me. In very simplistic terms, being a Green Witch means being connected with nature and using natural elements.

Many Green Witches work with dried herbs or have home gardens where they grow their own plants and herbs. They may work in the kitchen and apply this to their daily meals or beverages like tea.

It’s also about connecting what is available in your vicinity. Many Green Witches choose to live in isolated or rural areas where they have access to natural bodies of water or are surrounded by beautiful scenery. They make their owns potions, oils, candles and are very crafty with organic materials.

For me, I love this simple way of life. I wish I lived in a rural area where I had better access to flowers and gardens. And where it isn’t winter six months of the year!

To learn more, subscribe to The Green Witch on YouTube. She’s wonderful.


Norse and Celtic Paganism

The practice of Paganism isn’t a new concept to me, however, celebrating Norse and Celtic Paganism is. After learning the controversy about adopting Indigenous beliefs when you aren’t Indigenous, I did a lot of soul searching and started learning about my own heritage.

My background is a bit of a mixed bag. I have a strong Danish background, with some Irish, English and like 2% German. Because the Danish genes are so pertinent, I’ve always felt strong ties to the Nordic ways and more recently – the history of the Vikings. Yes, I like the thought of pillaging a little too much.

Paganism predates modern Christianity and was commonly practiced in European countries. The main differences being that in Paganism, more than one deity is worshipped. There is a long list of Gods, Goddesses and Deities that you can choose from and work with.

For Nordic Paganism, Odin is the main God, while there are others like Thor, Frigg, Heimdall, Tyr. And coming up next week is Imbolc, where the Goddess Brigid is celebrated. I’ll write more on that later.

In Paganism, there are 7 festivals that are honored along with other celebrations to mark certain events during the year. Christmas for example, was adapted from Yule which is celebrated on winter solstice – December 21st. Samhain, also Halloween, is celebrated on October 31 and so on.

Next week is Imbolc, and I will be sharing a post on what Imbolc is and how it is celebrated around the globe. I will also create separate posts to describe in more details what each of these religions or practices detail. But – these are often life long lessons and take years to master.

I’m also working on a list of reference books too that I will share via Good Reads when I get a chance.


Celtic Roots

In addition to Nordic Paganism, I have always felt a strong connection to my Irish or Celtic roots. Something about Celtic music just transports me to a different timeline. Artists like Loreena McKennit, produce music so magical that you’ll feel as though you’re in a dream when listening.


In Summary

My beliefs and spiritual practices are constantly evolving. I love to learn and platforms like YouTube are a good place to start. Just take what you learn with a grain of salt, and do your own research.

You may need to try a few things before settling on what you really connect with. Connection is probably the most important aspect of spirituality. Follow your heart and what brings you most joy. It does help overall with healing.

Read, read, read. And read some more.

That’s the best piece of advice I can give for when you are doing shadow work or trying to find what works for you. You’ll make mistakes and that’s okay. And you may change your beliefs as new experiences and revelations come into your life. And that’s okay.

And lastly.

Thanks for reading.

Blessed Be.


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Check out my “spiritual” page for a list of Sabbats, celebrations and other important dates. Look out for future articles that will be posted here.


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