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Christmas Memories: Old Toy Trains

Last night while visiting my dad, we watched the Natalie MacMaster’s “A Celtic Christmas” concert. It’s that time of year, where no matter what station you turn, on there’s something Christmasy on the tele. It was a rare night where there wasn’t any Canadian sporting events on.

We watched the classic Ben-Hur, silent film from 1925, for about ten minutes. I had seen clips of it before. But it had been years since I had watched a silent film and I wanted to see what it was like. Both dad and I lost interest pretty quickly. The movie was of course esthecitally beautiful. But we’ve been spoiled by modern technology now. Watching the film gave us something new to talk about. Dad was never a movie fan. He would watch simply to please my mother who was.

I miss watching movies with my mum. We would stay up until way past our bedtimes and watch scary movies. Not gory movies. Just dark thrillers that messed with your mind. Our last horror movie that we watched was The Rite with Anthony Hopkins – because we both adored him. Mum stayed awake for the whole movie and then she said, “Well, I can’t go to sleep after watching that. Let’s watch something happy.”

That was one of the best nights with my mum. We stayed up until 3 am watching movies and then stayed up another hour just talking about them. I know my mum is the reason I have insomnia and have trouble sleeping at night. She was a night owl and did her best work after all of us kids had gone to bed.

Something mum had said to me not long before she died was, “If they remake Casablanca, I’m out of here.” I mean, there are just some movies you don’t touch.

My dad doesn’t get much out of television shows. It’s why we mainly watch hockey. I remember back in the day, he loved comedians like Mr. Bean and Victor Borge. Their comedy was easy to follow. Mostly slap stick humour. Victor Borge was an extraordinary musician. Dad and I would howl at the tv whenever he was on.

His “page-turner” skit was one of our favorites.

I also remember watching shows like The Grand Ole Opry. Dad’s toes would tap when artists like Dolly Parton, Kenny Rogers and Willie Nelson hopped on stage. Johnny Cash was another favorite. I recently saw his daughter Rosanne Cash live, and it filled my heart with so many happy memories. “Islands in the Stream” was a favorite of ours. We loved watching Kenny Rogers and Dolly Parton on stage.

Seeing dad perk up a little last night during the Christmas concert warmed my heart. It gave us something new to talk about. Growing up in Denmark, dad learned to play the violin. He used to sit at the piano and tinker out one fingered melodies. I would later learn that his father was a very talented musician and could play anything instrument he picked up. My grandmother also loved to sing and she was the reason I took the volunteer gig at the Danish church as the organist.

I’m looking forward to Christmas this year. As it’s the one time of year I get to see most of my family. But this time of year is also hard for me. My mum – she loved Christmas. I’m just glad that I took time off church to spend her last Christmas at home.

Christmas. This time of year is filled with so many memories of my mom singing in the kitchen along to the greats like Frank Sinatra, Dean Martin and Perry Como. But in our house, we had a favorite album that was played every Christmas.

And I still can’t listen to this song with tearing up as I think of my mum. I avoided talking about the album last night because dad is easily overcome with emotions these days.

But I didn’t know what else to write about this morning, and so I’ll leave you with this song that brings tears to my eyes.

This is Nana Mouskouri’s, Old Toy Trains.

Grief: if ye love me

In my line of volunteer work with the church, I’ve play music for a lot of funerals. And because I’ve been at the church as long as I have, I’ve come to know many of the church members and they have become an extended family.

I’ve never been a highly religious person. I’m obsessed with subjects that would be looked down upon in any church – magic, supernatural, divination, alternative healing methods. I was raised Catholic but never paid much attention to it.

The church for me, is about family, food, and learning about my heritage. It’s about making new friends. And it’s pretty much my social activity for the week other than seeing my dad. It’s something that is familiar and has been my home of nearly fifteen years.

Plus, I get to play music once a week. So, that’s a bonus.

A good friend of mine at the church lost her daughter last year and a grandson. We have bonded for years over Sunday morning coffee and chat about all things in life. There are six of us – regulars who are there almost every Sunday no matter what. Even mid winter snowstorms wouldn’t keep these folks away.

But as my friends reach the ages of 80 and even 92, like my beautiful red headed friend, I’m reminded of how precious life is and how short life can be.

After she lost her daughter she said one day on Facebook, and this sentence has really stuck with me since.

“Grief, is love. It really just has no place to go.”

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Everyone says that grief eventually fades over time. But I find the older I get, that’s a lie. The more time that goes on, I seem to miss my mother more than ever. There are definitely days that are harder than others. There are days when it feels like she is right next to me watching me while I work on some project or in the kitchen – which was her favorite place to be.

Sometimes, I hear her voice in my head and go to pick up the phone and call her. Then I remember she’s gone and so I call my dad instead.

It’s been five years almost – and I don’t think gets easier. I think it gets harder as time goes on.

Younger people must have a harder time with loss. Especially children. Over time, you forget what people look or sound like. Thank goodness there are pictures and now videos to remind us of our loved ones. But what about the people we lost before technology came along?

We had a video camera in the 90s which my mum used a lot. But she used it to take videos of family. The grandkids. My sister. She rarely appeared on camera.

And that got me thinking about me. That’s me. I’m usually the one behind the camera taking pictures and I’m fine with that. But then I realized one day – hey. I don’t have kids. I don’t have a family of my very own. I don’t have something to leave behind.

I don’t have an imprint to leave on this world like my mother did with her 5 children and 9 grandchildren, and 1 great grandchild. That’s a pretty impressive resume, don’t you think? For one person? Creating a legacy that big?

And so, that’s where the inspiration behind “In Her Eyes” came from. My latest album release. It’s a 7 track album with original piano music.

On days where it seems I’m drowning in sorrow or grief, I turn to music for comfort. I sit in quiet contemplation until I hear a song that is so upbeat it gets my toes tapping and I can’t help but smile.

But for moments like this in the morning. When the world is mostly quiet and I’m sitting down with my coffee, wondering what to write about. It’s those moments that I think of my mother. It’s those moments I turn to music to quiet the ever busy mind.

It’s those moments that I get lost in the sounds of violins, cellos, classical guitar, piano and elegant choir voices that sound like angels. It’s these moments that I realize that grief will eventually pass and lead to something — more.

Music is magical. Music has healing powers. Music speaks to the soul. Music – like this. Sacred music shakes you to the core and makes you think about everything you’ve ever done in your life.

This music doesn’t just speak to your soul. It comes from the inner soul. It comes from the heart. It’s the music of angels.


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Self-care goals: how to unwind after a bad day.

This is a repost. I think it’s good information to share every now and then. You can also read my post on The Art of Self-Care.

Just a short post today. It’s been a lousy few days. Tired. Stressed. And contemplating when things started heading south. Last month – things were amazing. But the past two weeks, since I got bronchitis, it seems like my whole world has come crashing down. And I’m not sure how to pull myself out of this funk.

So, I thought I’d share some tips on how I survive bad days like today – when it seems like the entire world is crashing around you all at once. Ever feel like you’re drowning and you can’t get out of the water? Yeah, that’s where we are today. I’ve sunken to a new low.

But then I’ll wake up tomorrow and it will be a new day. I’ll feel rested. And it will be a new day.

How do I cope on days like this? The routine isn’t all that complicated really. It’s pretty easy. Even you can do this.

Adult, Bath, Bathtub, Blur, Indoors, Leisure

Coping tips for really, really, bad days.

Make a nice hot cooked meal like my mum used to make.

It reminds me of her. There’s just something about the taste of a roast beef soaked in gravy, a side of roasted vegetables and mashed potatoes. Really. Nothing makes me feel like “home” more than this.

Watch animals and babies do funny things on YouTube

Watch dogs and cats doing silly things. Find funny videos of babies laughing. Laughing really is the best medicine. Also, watching people falling – video compilations. I shouldn’t love these as much as I do. But they really perk you up. Or maybe I’m just sadistic that way.

Reach out to a friend in need

Call a friend and chat with someone who is also going through a difficult time. Misery loves company. But sometimes you just need to vent to someone who understands. I did this when I got home. Had a good chat with a colleague and I feel a little better now. I’m not the only one going through a rough patch. We’ve all been there.

Find comfort – hot bath, soak in a hot tub or steam room

Having a warm bath with epsom salts really does work wonders on stress. Dim the lights. Bring out the candles. Lower yourself into the tub. Lean back with a water pillow. Put a facecloth over your eyes. And just relax. Block the rest of the world out. You deserve this.

Pour yourself a hot up herbal tea or a warm cup of cocoa

Polish the night off with a hot cup of Chamomile or Lemon tea. Chamomile is a herb that helps you wind down. It can also help you sleep. Fun fact – you can also use cool Chamomile tea for for a skin rinse. Not a tea drinker? No problem. A warm cup of cocoa can help. Add a dash of cinnamon or nutmeg to top it off. A few marshmallow if you’re not on a diet – to sweeten the deal.

Shut the world out -with music

Sit back in your reclining or rocker chair. Your couch or bed will suffice. Grab your noise canceling headphones. Turn on your favorite movie. Close your eyes. Let the soothing sounds of an acoustic guitar or dreamy instrumentals take you to another world.

Tell me, what do you on when you have a bad day? How do you cope?

For me – it’s always going to be music. And on that note – I hear my bed calling my name.

Update: six months and nearly 300 followers!

Good morning! It’s a bright and sunny Thursday morning. I’m sitting in my living room anxiously awaiting the painter. Today’s the last day of painting and I can’t wait to get my condo back into shape. I have things to do. Places to be. And new projects to work on.

Can you believe it’s been six months since I started this blog? Mostly Single was created in April 2019 as a way to help keep motivated on my fitness journey. But I realized that fitness wasn’t something I was passionate about – and so I started neglecting this blog.

Even though I’ve tried breaking up with music many times over the years, it keeps calling me back again and again. I bit the bullet this week and ordered a new midi keyboard. Unfortunately, it was a piece of you know what. It’s boxed up and ready to be shipped back to Amazon. My first return! I hope I don’t get banned – I’ve heard that’s possible.

So, what has happened in six months? A lot!

Even though “Mostly Single” is now defunct, I have given this blog a complete overhaul and started fresh. But don’t worry. A lot of my articles are saved in draft form – to be repurposed and republished later. Now I can focus more on the positive things in life – DIY projects, music, writing, and whatever life throws my way.

I will be shopping for a new MIDI keyboard very soon. Once the renovations have been completed and my condo is back to normal. It currently looks like a war zone. I have several music projects I want to get done – including a long awaited Christmas album. Yikes. It’s almost Christmas.

DIY Projects & Home Improvement

Over the years, I’ve done a lot of DIY projects but haven’t documented them. I learned to make jewelry, went through a Picasso phase and painted everything I could get my hands on, went through a photography phase. And now – I’m entering into a new phase of DIY home improvements and refurnishing furniture.

I’m moving in the spring into my dream condo. The condo needs some love. And my furniture – rather than buying all new furniture to match the decor, I had a brilliant idea of stripping the cheap Ikea shelves and cabinets – and making them look fresh and modern.

I inherited some items from my dad’s house. Vintage wood from the 70’s. I’m not sure if I’ll be refinishing them. Maybe just a touch up on the top. I also took my mum’s desk that has been in the family for decades. These pieces will look great in my new living room.

DIY Music

I’ll be writing regular weekly articles on DIY music tips that I’ve tried over the years. With 40 years of experience to pull from – I have a lot talk about and share with you. I hope to also eventually record some tutorials. But that will wait until I have my studio set up in my new pad.

Ad Free Website

As promised, this blog will remain ad-free. While this means a loss in potential revenue for me, I’ve included ways that you can help with covering the costs. I’ll be publishing an Amazon wish list soon and have set up a donation link via PayPal. Just scroll down to the bottom of the screen and offer to buy me a cup of coffee or two.

New Releases

I’ll be working on some new releases for this fall. I’ve already released “Remember Me” a piano single, and a cover of “Time After Time” which is pending a sync license. Once the new studio is finished, I hope to record on a regular basis. There just aren’t enough hours in the day.

Fitness & Well-being

Fitness is still a goal in my life. I’m eating healthy again, making salads and healthy dishes. I’m more active and do lunges, squats daily – I’m even riding the cycle again. When I move, I’ll have a fitness centre and access to nature trails. I just can’t wait for the lifestyle change. Being so close to the River Valley will be a huge bonus – I can get back into photography too.

Inspirational Posts

Yes, this will still be a part of my blog. People love these posts. I have a new series out called “Advice from my grandmother.” This series includes quotes, verses and sayings that my grandmother had written in her memoirs “My Journey.” I’m excited to share some of these with you.

Training at work has been stalled due to budget cuts. The future of employment is uncertain at this stage. A new government can mean a lot of changes in the work we do. We’re already seeing cuts to hospitality. When I am able to take courses at work and on my own dime, I’ll share my learnings with you.

Stats and Followings

This blog is now sitting just shy of 300 followers. I’m amazed! I expected to lose followers when I stopped posting. But the numbers continue to climb. I have a goal. If I earn up to 1,000 followers this year – I will invest in the pro business plan and ditch my music website. The pro plan has all the bells and whistles. But for now, I’d like to see how this blog does organically. Readers are from around the globe – reaching as far as India which is mind blowing.

Thank you!

Thank you all for being here. Especially for those who have been here since April and followed me along this journey and path of self-discovery. You’re never too old to learn and you’re never too old to change what you want in life. The key is to continue to make new goals and strive for self-improvement. And to take what you’ve learned about yourself – and share it with others.

Have a great Thursday – make sure to hit that follow button if you haven’t already!

Advice from my grandmother 3: marriage

Advice from her school teacher Mr. Sandbaek, early 1920’s, Denmark.

Most happy is the one in a happy marriage.

Second most happy is the single person, who lives for a cause.

The less happy is the one once married, but lost the loved one.

But least happy, is the one in a bad marriage.

Another citation from Mr. Sandbaek, 1920’s, Denmark

Look at the woman,

She is always in love,

Only the object of her love changes.

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Advice from my grandmother 2

Advice from my grandmother 2: glitter and pearls


Come my little one, and now, we fast to school will go,

To sing, read, write,

Then we will all be plucky and clever boys and girls.

Oh, how great they will be.

Karen Jensen, My Journey, author unknown

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If you have a Mother humming, while she struggled,

Every day would seem glorified.

A brave Mother who carried her burden with a smile,

Gave bread to her sole and lovely food to her body.

If you follow in her footsteps,

Then thank your mother.

Svend Rehling

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Glitter and pearls, is mixed here on earth,

Leave the glitter, but thread to pearls on a string.

Karen Jensen, My Journey, author unkown

Advice from my grandmother.

Empty. White. Pages.

Write, write, you beautiful life.

Write, write, whatever you please.

I offer myself.

For the heavy, the happy,

Except for the empty, white, pages.

Karen Jensen, My Journey. Translated from Danish by Birgit & Lissi (the aunts).


What is joy?

There are stubbles and rocks on our road.

There is hardship for you and for me.

But what is joy?

If you never know how to cry.

Kristian Estergaard, excerpt from My Journey, Karen Jensen.

A Danish Blessing

Min fodstvan er lyngens brune land,
Min barndoms soi har smilt paa morken hede,
Min spaede fod har trudt det gule sand,
Blandt sort hoje bor min ungdoms glaede.
—In deep gratitude.

Steensens , excerpt from My Journey, Karen Jensen.


Fitness Goals: Healthy Eating

I celebrated Mother’s Day with the women in my family today. It was a lovely afternoon. And since we were downtown, we decided to take advantage of the gorgeous weather and walked around the River Valley.

I was not dressed for the walk. I’m not big into wearing dresses so I had worn black dress pants, a blouse and my black comfy shoes. Plus dresses never really fit me right. I’m in between sizes right now. I’ve dropped some weight in recent months but not nearly enough.

Ten years ago, I had dropped seventy pounds and kept it off for three years. A blown out knee while hiking resulted in gaining sixty of those pounds back over a couple of years. I gained even more pounds when I got sick a couple of years ago.

I’ve been working hard to lose the pounds but it is seemingly taking forever.

My brother in law commented at how much weight I had lost when I saw him at Easter. I didn’t think it had been that much. Until I measured myself. I had dropped nearly five inches all around.

But I still have a lot more to go.

A hormonal disorder, age, genetics and bad knees really makes it difficult to lose the pounds now. When I was in my thirties, it was much easier. Now I need to really watch what I eat and take it slower.

How have I lost the weight so far? Painfully, slowly. Really freaking slowly.

I’ve had some success recently with a high protein and moderately low carb diet.

What does that mean? It means that while I watch what I eat, I can still enjoy the foods I love in moderation. Things like bread, cereals, fruit, and treats every now and then.

Bread is my number one weakness. But I’ve cut back to every other day instead of having bread twice a day.

Here is what a typical day looks like. Keep in mind that meals vary from day to day.

Breakfast Options 

All breakfast options typically include one or two cups of coffee and a bottle of water

  • 1 cup of low fat yogurt, fruit (berries), granola or Special K cereal
  • 1 piece of bread (whole wheat if you’re watching calories), with peanut butter and a glass of milk, banana on the side
  • 1 hard-boiled egg, 1 piece of fruit
  • 1 granola bar or protein bar (watch the calories and sodium intake)
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Lunch Options

For drinks I typically drink bottled water. Sometimes I go for diet soda if I’m having a craving for bubbles. 

  • Tuna or egg sandwich on whole wheat bread, 1 or 2 pieces of fruit
  • 1.5 cups of raw veggies, 2 pieces of cheese (packaged kind), 1 hard-boiled egg
  • 2.0 cups of salad (I love tomato-cucumber salad, it’s my favorite), with fruit or yogurt on the side
  • Frozen smart meal – again this will depend on what I eat the rest of the day
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Dinner Options

Dinner is where I make sure to have a good sized portion of protein. Fish, chicken, pork are all things that I try to keep on hand. Drinks are either water, one cup of coffee, or a diet soda if I didn’t have one at lunch. I try and mix it up.

  • Roast chicken with the skin removed, brown rice and a serving of veggies
  • Grilled salmon served with rice or a side of salad
  • A variety of meal sized salads with a serving of protein. I also adore avocado and sometimes when lazy, just chop one up, add a bit of salt and pepper and eat it with a hard boiled egg.
  • Other times I just munch on slices of meat, raw veggies and low fat cheese. Goat cheese is really great too.
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Drinks

I gave up sugary pop. The only time I really have sugar in my diet is with my morning coffee which I cut back to a maximum of two cups a day. Sometimes I cave and drink diet pepsi which is like my crack. I know, I know. It’s just as terrible for you. But juice, while tasty, has so much sugar and empty calories. Sometimes I will brew herbal tea and chill it in the fridge. Green tea, black tea, ginger tea and lemon tea all taste great cold. It’s also fantastic for skin. Every now and then I’ll buy a jug of Clamato juice and that helps me get my fill of veggies for the day.

Water is important for weight loss. It also helps to flush out toxins and clear up your skin. Here are some other drinks that I enjoy every now and then.

  • Coffee (black is best for weight loss)
  • Green tea, black tea, chamomile tea (caffeine free teas)
  • Tomato Juice
  • Sparkling Water (lemon)
  • Diet soda on occasion
  • Glass of wine (special occasions) – red is good for the heart

Snacks

Snacks vary from day to day depending on how active I’ve been and how hungry I am. Some days I eat more than others. Some days, not so much.

  • Cottage cheese with crackers
  • Apple slices and peanut butter
  • Avocado and a hard-boiled egg
  • A cup of fruit (berries)
  • Rice cakes or rice chips (low calorie)
  • Low fat yogurt with a dash of dark cocoa to give it that chocolaty flavour
  • Freshly made popcorn with a dash of salt and margarine

Blog Updates & Progress Reports

Now that I have more time to devote to cooking and healthy eating, I hope to post my progress and update this blog often. I’ll share new recipes and exercise routines with you. This is my focus. My goal. I need to get back into shape and to get healthy – before the end of summer.

I hope you’ll join me for the ride.