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I ate a swiss roll for breakfast. I’m fine. We’re fine. It’s fine.

So, for those that have been following my blog for a while know that I live alone – obviously, I mean, hence the name “mostly single.” I also don’t drive. I rely heavily on deliveries and my friend Wally who is a driver for my monthly supply run.

Since discovering the wonderful world of Superstore (his wife works for them), I have been enjoying a routine of carefully selecting items that fall within my budget online. Wally picks up my groceries. He drops them off. I pay him for his time and gas money.

It’s a win-win scenario for both of us. I don’t have to leave my condo except to meet him downstairs. Which by the way, it was freezing this morning. We’re supposed to get another dump of snow tonight.

And he gets a bit of extra money for the kids. It isn’t much. But it helps us both out.

If you haven’t used the PC Express website, it works like this.

First, you pick a timeslot for pick up. Normally, you can book within 24 hours. But now – you are looking at a minimum of a ten day wait to pick up your order. But have no fear. You can plan ahead and change your order until the day before.

I changed my mind daily on what was important. I decided to stock up and spend more money than usual so I have enough food for two weeks. I’m trying to avoid going out to stores if I can help it. I don’t like crowds at the best of times. Never mind in the middle of a pandemic.

Wally shows up to the store on time. He texts me. He says it took him a long time to find a parking stall. There are designated spots for pick ups. I call the store from the comfort of my bedroom.

“What’s your name?” I tell them.

“When did you place your order? I don’t have a confirmation for you.”

I tell them that I placed it last week and confirmed it last night. I just got the confirmation email that my order was ready. Oh yeah. They send out confirmation emails about your substitutions and stuff – which is a huge plus for me. I’m fussy when it comes to brands and stuff.

“We don’t have an order for you. Are you sure you are phoning the right store?”

I hold my phone away from my face and give the phone my best WTF look. I tell them calmly and politely that yes, I have the right store, the same store I order from every month – sometimes every week. I tell myself to remain calm and civil – they’re doing their best.

“We don’t have an order here for you.”

I hold the phone away further and let out a small cry of frustration. Someone else comes to the phone.

“What’s your name? What’s your confirmation number?”

A few more minutes go by. Because clearly, it was me who made the mistake.

Another person comes onto the phone.

“Oh, we have it right here. Sorry. We’ll be right out.”

Twenty minutes later – Wally texts me to say he’s on the way with my food. TWENTY minutes later.

I mean, I know we’re in the middle of a fucking pandemic. But still. Why are people are always so quick to lay blame on the consumer? Why is it always the customer’s fault? Like, I know how to place an order. I’ve done this for months.

Anyway. Okay. I’ve ranted. I’m over it. I have food for the next two weeks and basic supplies. I don’t have to leave my house (Condo) if I don’t want to.

But oh… I do. I’m bored. I’m restless.

And I ate a Swiss Roll and a bowl of Corn Pops for breakfast this morning. Does that count for dieting? I think it’s safe to say that my healthy eating has been replaced by comfort food.

Hold the phone. I’m going back for a second Swiss Roll. God help me.

Update: six months and nearly 300 followers!

Good morning! It’s a bright and sunny Thursday morning. I’m sitting in my living room anxiously awaiting the painter. Today’s the last day of painting and I can’t wait to get my condo back into shape. I have things to do. Places to be. And new projects to work on.

Can you believe it’s been six months since I started this blog? Mostly Single was created in April 2019 as a way to help keep motivated on my fitness journey. But I realized that fitness wasn’t something I was passionate about – and so I started neglecting this blog.

Even though I’ve tried breaking up with music many times over the years, it keeps calling me back again and again. I bit the bullet this week and ordered a new midi keyboard. Unfortunately, it was a piece of you know what. It’s boxed up and ready to be shipped back to Amazon. My first return! I hope I don’t get banned – I’ve heard that’s possible.

So, what has happened in six months? A lot!

Even though “Mostly Single” is now defunct, I have given this blog a complete overhaul and started fresh. But don’t worry. A lot of my articles are saved in draft form – to be repurposed and republished later. Now I can focus more on the positive things in life – DIY projects, music, writing, and whatever life throws my way.

I will be shopping for a new MIDI keyboard very soon. Once the renovations have been completed and my condo is back to normal. It currently looks like a war zone. I have several music projects I want to get done – including a long awaited Christmas album. Yikes. It’s almost Christmas.

DIY Projects & Home Improvement

Over the years, I’ve done a lot of DIY projects but haven’t documented them. I learned to make jewelry, went through a Picasso phase and painted everything I could get my hands on, went through a photography phase. And now – I’m entering into a new phase of DIY home improvements and refurnishing furniture.

I’m moving in the spring into my dream condo. The condo needs some love. And my furniture – rather than buying all new furniture to match the decor, I had a brilliant idea of stripping the cheap Ikea shelves and cabinets – and making them look fresh and modern.

I inherited some items from my dad’s house. Vintage wood from the 70’s. I’m not sure if I’ll be refinishing them. Maybe just a touch up on the top. I also took my mum’s desk that has been in the family for decades. These pieces will look great in my new living room.

DIY Music

I’ll be writing regular weekly articles on DIY music tips that I’ve tried over the years. With 40 years of experience to pull from – I have a lot talk about and share with you. I hope to also eventually record some tutorials. But that will wait until I have my studio set up in my new pad.

Ad Free Website

As promised, this blog will remain ad-free. While this means a loss in potential revenue for me, I’ve included ways that you can help with covering the costs. I’ll be publishing an Amazon wish list soon and have set up a donation link via PayPal. Just scroll down to the bottom of the screen and offer to buy me a cup of coffee or two.

New Releases

I’ll be working on some new releases for this fall. I’ve already released “Remember Me” a piano single, and a cover of “Time After Time” which is pending a sync license. Once the new studio is finished, I hope to record on a regular basis. There just aren’t enough hours in the day.

Fitness & Well-being

Fitness is still a goal in my life. I’m eating healthy again, making salads and healthy dishes. I’m more active and do lunges, squats daily – I’m even riding the cycle again. When I move, I’ll have a fitness centre and access to nature trails. I just can’t wait for the lifestyle change. Being so close to the River Valley will be a huge bonus – I can get back into photography too.

Inspirational Posts

Yes, this will still be a part of my blog. People love these posts. I have a new series out called “Advice from my grandmother.” This series includes quotes, verses and sayings that my grandmother had written in her memoirs “My Journey.” I’m excited to share some of these with you.

Training at work has been stalled due to budget cuts. The future of employment is uncertain at this stage. A new government can mean a lot of changes in the work we do. We’re already seeing cuts to hospitality. When I am able to take courses at work and on my own dime, I’ll share my learnings with you.

Stats and Followings

This blog is now sitting just shy of 300 followers. I’m amazed! I expected to lose followers when I stopped posting. But the numbers continue to climb. I have a goal. If I earn up to 1,000 followers this year – I will invest in the pro business plan and ditch my music website. The pro plan has all the bells and whistles. But for now, I’d like to see how this blog does organically. Readers are from around the globe – reaching as far as India which is mind blowing.

Thank you!

Thank you all for being here. Especially for those who have been here since April and followed me along this journey and path of self-discovery. You’re never too old to learn and you’re never too old to change what you want in life. The key is to continue to make new goals and strive for self-improvement. And to take what you’ve learned about yourself – and share it with others.

Have a great Thursday – make sure to hit that follow button if you haven’t already!

Advice from my grandmother 3: marriage

Advice from her school teacher Mr. Sandbaek, early 1920’s, Denmark.

Most happy is the one in a happy marriage.

Second most happy is the single person, who lives for a cause.

The less happy is the one once married, but lost the loved one.

But least happy, is the one in a bad marriage.

Another citation from Mr. Sandbaek, 1920’s, Denmark

Look at the woman,

She is always in love,

Only the object of her love changes.

Advice from my grandmother 
Advice from my grandmother 2

Fitness Goals: Healthy Eating

I celebrated Mother’s Day with the women in my family today. It was a lovely afternoon. And since we were downtown, we decided to take advantage of the gorgeous weather and walked around the River Valley.

I was not dressed for the walk. I’m not big into wearing dresses so I had worn black dress pants, a blouse and my black comfy shoes. Plus dresses never really fit me right. I’m in between sizes right now. I’ve dropped some weight in recent months but not nearly enough.

Ten years ago, I had dropped seventy pounds and kept it off for three years. A blown out knee while hiking resulted in gaining sixty of those pounds back over a couple of years. I gained even more pounds when I got sick a couple of years ago.

I’ve been working hard to lose the pounds but it is seemingly taking forever.

My brother in law commented at how much weight I had lost when I saw him at Easter. I didn’t think it had been that much. Until I measured myself. I had dropped nearly five inches all around.

But I still have a lot more to go.

A hormonal disorder, age, genetics and bad knees really makes it difficult to lose the pounds now. When I was in my thirties, it was much easier. Now I need to really watch what I eat and take it slower.

How have I lost the weight so far? Painfully, slowly. Really freaking slowly.

I’ve had some success recently with a high protein and moderately low carb diet.

What does that mean? It means that while I watch what I eat, I can still enjoy the foods I love in moderation. Things like bread, cereals, fruit, and treats every now and then.

Bread is my number one weakness. But I’ve cut back to every other day instead of having bread twice a day.

Here is what a typical day looks like. Keep in mind that meals vary from day to day.

Breakfast Options 

All breakfast options typically include one or two cups of coffee and a bottle of water

  • 1 cup of low fat yogurt, fruit (berries), granola or Special K cereal
  • 1 piece of bread (whole wheat if you’re watching calories), with peanut butter and a glass of milk, banana on the side
  • 1 hard-boiled egg, 1 piece of fruit
  • 1 granola bar or protein bar (watch the calories and sodium intake)
breakfast
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Lunch Options

For drinks I typically drink bottled water. Sometimes I go for diet soda if I’m having a craving for bubbles. 

  • Tuna or egg sandwich on whole wheat bread, 1 or 2 pieces of fruit
  • 1.5 cups of raw veggies, 2 pieces of cheese (packaged kind), 1 hard-boiled egg
  • 2.0 cups of salad (I love tomato-cucumber salad, it’s my favorite), with fruit or yogurt on the side
  • Frozen smart meal – again this will depend on what I eat the rest of the day
lunch table
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Dinner Options

Dinner is where I make sure to have a good sized portion of protein. Fish, chicken, pork are all things that I try to keep on hand. Drinks are either water, one cup of coffee, or a diet soda if I didn’t have one at lunch. I try and mix it up.

  • Roast chicken with the skin removed, brown rice and a serving of veggies
  • Grilled salmon served with rice or a side of salad
  • A variety of meal sized salads with a serving of protein. I also adore avocado and sometimes when lazy, just chop one up, add a bit of salt and pepper and eat it with a hard boiled egg.
  • Other times I just munch on slices of meat, raw veggies and low fat cheese. Goat cheese is really great too.
brown fish fillet on white ceramic plate
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Drinks

I gave up sugary pop. The only time I really have sugar in my diet is with my morning coffee which I cut back to a maximum of two cups a day. Sometimes I cave and drink diet pepsi which is like my crack. I know, I know. It’s just as terrible for you. But juice, while tasty, has so much sugar and empty calories. Sometimes I will brew herbal tea and chill it in the fridge. Green tea, black tea, ginger tea and lemon tea all taste great cold. It’s also fantastic for skin. Every now and then I’ll buy a jug of Clamato juice and that helps me get my fill of veggies for the day.

Water is important for weight loss. It also helps to flush out toxins and clear up your skin. Here are some other drinks that I enjoy every now and then.

  • Coffee (black is best for weight loss)
  • Green tea, black tea, chamomile tea (caffeine free teas)
  • Tomato Juice
  • Sparkling Water (lemon)
  • Diet soda on occasion
  • Glass of wine (special occasions) – red is good for the heart

Snacks

Snacks vary from day to day depending on how active I’ve been and how hungry I am. Some days I eat more than others. Some days, not so much.

  • Cottage cheese with crackers
  • Apple slices and peanut butter
  • Avocado and a hard-boiled egg
  • A cup of fruit (berries)
  • Rice cakes or rice chips (low calorie)
  • Low fat yogurt with a dash of dark cocoa to give it that chocolaty flavour
  • Freshly made popcorn with a dash of salt and margarine

Blog Updates & Progress Reports

Now that I have more time to devote to cooking and healthy eating, I hope to post my progress and update this blog often. I’ll share new recipes and exercise routines with you. This is my focus. My goal. I need to get back into shape and to get healthy – before the end of summer.

I hope you’ll join me for the ride.